I’ve been thinking, contemplating, mulling over whether or not I wanted to say anything about the recent vote in North Carolina and the death of the civil unions bill here in Colorado. I don’t like to get political most of the time, but this is an acception because we have friends and family members who are being affected by these decisions.
To say I’m disappointed in the state of affairs in regards to gay marriage and civil unions, would be an understatement. I will never understand why people think it is Christian to discriminate. What happened to love does no harm to a neighbor. Therefore love is the fulfillment of the law or above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.
People are going to believe what they want, hold their own views and values. It’s a rare occurrence that something I can say or do will change someone’s mind. What I can do as a parent, is teach Ella to be loving, understanding, compassionate and accepting.
I will teach her:
That it doesn’t matter if you are black, white, yellow, red, short, tall, fat or thin, gay or straight, you are a person. A person that is her equal. A person that deserves respect. A person that deserves the same rights as everyone else.
That love is what makes this world continue to spin. It doesn’t matter if you love a man or a woman, if you are heterosexual, homosexual or somewhere in-between. Love who you want and be happy. Everyone deserves someone to love and someone to love them.
That marriage and civil unions should not solely be about religion and be a political issue, it should be about love. If you are in love, you should be able to have that love legally recognized.
That some families are different. Some have mommies and daddies, some just daddies, some just mommies, some grandparents, some of mixed races. A mother and a father is not what makes a family. Being straight does not make a couple better parents to their children nor does being gay make you unfit to be a parent.
That ignorace and fear of something different breeds hate and makes the world a small place. If she educates herself and keeps an open mind, the world will be a much bigger place for her.
In her life, Ella will encounter people who have opposing views, she will meet people that are hateful, bigoted and ignorant. I hope that when she does, she takes the high road and is respectful while standing up for what she’s believes is right.
I don’t know what the future holds for Ella. I don’t know if she’ll fall in love with a man or woman. But what I do know is that I will love her no matter what. I hope when her future is our present, that governments are no longer telling two people in love that they do not have the right to have that love recognized and benefits realized.